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Whimiscal Aro Pom Pom Earrings

So coming up to Christmas last year I showed you how to make some cool aro jewellery, either for presents, or just for yourself. This year I figured why not do something similar for Pride? So I made a cute pair of pom pom earrings with aromantic themed yarn, and now I'm gonna teach you how to do the same.

This tutorial is going to be a lot easier then last year's, promise, and also much cheaper!


Obviously, just like last time, the first step is to gather your materials. You're going to need some yarn in whatever colours you want your earrings to be ($10), some fish hook earring backs ($3), and some thicker cardboard (usually found around the house). That's it. All up this project cost me about $13 AUD.

Now, obviously, to make this, you're going to need to know how to make a pom pom. I did buy myself a pom pom and tassle maker kit from spotlight, but that was about $40, and you really don't need it, unless you're regularly going to make lots of pom poms.

Instead, I'm going to show you a much cheaper and easier way to make pom poms, that I learned from this tutorial, which, for ease of access, I'm going to lay out below as well.

(Since I used a different kit to what I'm actually going to recommend doing for this, the pictures don't quite match up with what I actually made, but they should help you figure out the process.)

How to make the Pom Poms:

Cut out a shape out of the cardboard that resembles a rectangle with a slit running down the middle but not all the way, like in the image below.

Wrap these in yarn. I used two different colours of yarn, so I wrapped both at the same time, in double layers.

While the yarn is wrapped around your cardboard pom pom maker tie it tightly in the middle.

Slide it off the end, turn it over and tie even tighter on the opposite side. You'll want to make sure this yarn has some length to it, and that you don't trim it just yet.

Use your sharp scissors to cut the looped ends. It will come out looking very shaggy and a bit uneven.

Now it just needs a good trim which is the big secret of making a fluffy, round pom pom.

The trick to turning these pom poms into earrings? Simple. Take that longer piece of yarn you left, and thread it through the loop of your fish hook earrings to attach it. Tie the fishhooks as close to the pom pom as you would like them to be, and then trim your excess yarn. (This works better the closer it is to the pom pom).

You should end up with something a little like these! A cute piece of aro jewellry, made in about 10 minutes.

Enjoy, and I hope you have fun if you try your own hand at making these!


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Carnival of Aros - May 2020

Carnival of Aros is back, and so am I! (kinda).

It's been a rough little while, for pretty much the whole world, and there's been so many changes in my life on top of the current events that I ghosted social media for a long while to try and recharge myself.

It looks like Carnival of Aros did a similar thing, and now they've resurfaced with the theme of DIY for May. You can find more information here, but the given prompts this month include:

  • Write up a tutorial, recipe, lesson plan, or other set of instructions that can help others DIY something (especially if you have suggestions for we how to work in some aro pride symbols somewhere!)
  • Talk about some of your favorite hobbies or hobby communities – does being aro affect your relationship with these at all?
  • Share stories or pictures of your favorite DIY aro pride swag projects
  • Explain your own “DIY” life strategies for living without traditional romantic relationships, if that’s something that affects you
  • Or, talk about your strategies for “DIY-ing” new relationship styles when the standard scripts for things like “friend” or “girlfriend” or “partner” just don’t fit quite right.
  • Experiment with branching out from standard blog format and try your hand at an aro zine, collage, or other art piece

With Pride coming up in June for many places, now's the time to DIY yourself some aro pride gear, because obviously we can never have enough of that!

As always, submissions can be submitted to the host, this month the OG Carnival blog itself.


aceofsquiddles

George Michael: Last Christmas I gave you my heart, but the very next day you gave it away. This year, to save me from tears, I’ll give it to someone special.

Kid me, unaware that I’m aromantic: Wouldn’t it be safer to just keep it?


uncannyaro
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Love is a Flower

Love is a flower. Many people admire it's beauty, wish to own it, cultivate it. They coo over it's bright petals and exclaim it as beyond compare, never realising that not everyone cares for flowers.

Love is a weed. It grows where it wills, invasive throughout society, ever present and impossible to eradicate. Most think it harmless, this pretty weed, their obsession with it letting it spread ever further.

Love has grown it's roots far and wide, into every crack of society. It's lack is unthinkable, it's refusal incomprehensible. Even those who decry one species covert others, romantic traded for platonic, the flower pot placed on a pedestal just the same.

There are those who wish no part of it at all, have no desire for weeds in their gardens, no matter how pretty the flowers. We are the fraction of a fraction, the misconception. Aromantics can still admire the flowers, can feel other kinds of love. Just not all of us.


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Carnival of Aros - December 2019

I've been a bit wiped lately, so haven't exactly kept on top of the Carnival for the past couple of months, but now December's prompt is out and I plan on participating, so I'm also here to share!

You can head to Sara K's wordpress to find out more, but in general the chosen prompt this month is 'Love'.

The provided prompts include:

  • You may react to the misconception that ‘aromantic people cannot feel love’
  • You may comment on the conflation of romance with love from an aro perspective
  • How does your position under the aro umbrella (quoiromantic/greyromantic/aromantic/etc.) affect the way you experience love?
  • Are there any specifically ‘aro’ forms of love?
  • Does your position under the aro umbrella affect the way you react to generalized comments about love, such as ‘the world needs more love’, even when those comments are not specifically pointing to romance?

Instructions for submissions are included in the linked post, and as usual there is no limit to the type of submission you might make.


uncannyaro
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Necklace Beading Project

Christmas is coming up, and no matter where you look, aro merchandise is either hugely expensive, doesn't ship to you, or plain just doesn't exist. Never fear however, because making your own is fun and surprisingly easy! So, today I'm gonna talk you through a tutorial on beaded jewellery.

(This is going to be fairly long, even without the photos, so a read more is kinda necessary. I apologise for the poor formatting, photos are kinda tricky on waterfall right now.)

First steps first, gather your materials.

These will vary based on what you plan to make, and how much you want to customise it. For my project, I chose to do a suede necklace with a beaded pendant, but you certainly don’t have to go that fancy with it if you choose.

For a simple beaded necklace I would recommend, at bare minimum, a pair of needle nose pliers (craft shops often have them cheap, or even sets of various jewellery pliers, if you feel this is something you might want to invest in a bit), beading thread/wire, some sort of necklace clasp, and of course, beads of your choice. I also use crimping beads and jump rings in my project to secure things. They make it a bit easier, but they are optional if you’re strapped for cash.

Below is a list of all the materials I used for my project, and how much it cost me. Keep in mind that, while the initial price is a bit on the high side, it is a little fancy. I made my own necklace out of different material then my beaded piece, and added extra charms. Not all of these items are necessary, so I’ve bolded the ones I recommended above. You can also often find deals on beads and things like the jump rings and crimp beads. I believe I actually got my feather charms for free with a ‘buy 3 get 1 free’ deal. These materials will also make a fair amount of jewellery as well. I could make at least 3 necklaces before needing new clasps, which brings the individual cost of my necklace down to about $15.

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Material Cost:

Thread: $2

Faux Suede: $8.50

Leather Crimps: $5.50

Gem Beads: $4.25

Jump Rings: $4.25

Magnetic Clasp: $6.50

Crimp Beads: $4.25

Feather Charms: $4.25

Pliers: $7.50

Total: $47 AUD

Recommended Items Total: $20.25 AUD

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For those unfamiliar with some of the above terms, don’t worry, because I'm about to explain them.

Beading Thread: A flexible plastic wire made for stringing beads on. Comes in stretchy and non stretchy versions based on your needs.

Crimping Bead: A small bead made of soft metal. It can be squashed flat over beading thread to secure beads or other items in place. This is referred to as “crimping the thread”, or just “crimping/crimp”..

Clasp: A clasp holds two ends of a bracelet or necklace together. Most often a kind of clip, although magnetic and screw versions also exist.

Jump Ring: A jump ring is a small metal ring that can be used to hold different parts of a jewellery piece together. It has a small break in it, allowing it to be pulled apart for easier attachment.

Pliers: A jewellers most useful tool. The most common is the needle nose pliers, whose long ‘nose’ not only gives it its name, but allows jewellers to grip and manipulate their (often small) pieces with ease.

Faux Suede: A type of fake leather very popular as a necklace or bracelet material. Can be braided, or left as is to attach pendants or charms to.

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How intensive the actual piece is depends on how exactly you’re making your jewellery. If you’re only making say, a necklace pendant or a pair of earrings, that will naturally involve less work then an entire necklace or bracelet, but the execution is pretty much the same.

First, cut a length of beading thread appropriate to your design, and pick what is going to be at the end of your piece. In my case it was a feather charm, but you can also add a clasp for a bracelet or necklace, the start of your bead pattern if you’re doing some dangling earrings or something similar, or a jump ring to later attach to jewellery as needed. Once you know what goes on first, either tie or crimp your thread to it.

To crimp the thread, first string on a crimping bead, and then whatever you’ve picked as your starting item (I used a feather charm for mine, but demonstrate with a jump ring below). After that, thread it back through the original crimping bead, forming a loop holding the item. Pull the loop as tight as you want it to be, and use your pliers to squeeze the bead flat.

Once you have your thread secured, you can either trim the excess thread, or leave it to double thread your beads. Here is where we start threading the beads, using any pattern or arrangement you like. Since I was only doing a simple pendant, I used a feather charm on one end, and then threaded fluorite gem beads in the aro flag colours, but really this part is up to personal preference. If you’d like a full beaded necklace, here’s the part where you make it! If you left your excess thread in the last step, just feed it back through the beads as you place them, and it’ll stay tucked away.

Once you have your beads arranged how you’d like, you can finish off the thread. If you started your design with a clasp, this is where you attach the other half, either tying or crimping it on as you did the first half. If, like me, you’re making a pendant for a necklace, either tie a loop in the thread large enough for you necklace to pass through (or tie it around the necklace), crimp a loop in the thread, or attach a jump ring to the end. If you’re making earrings, either tie, crimp, or use a jump ring to attach the piece to the earring backs of your choice.

I attached my clasp with jump rings, which can be a little tricky for first time users, so I have slightly more detailed instructions on how to use them below. My chosen clasp was magnetic, but they come in all sorts of sizes and designs, including your more common clip clasps. Almost all clasps will have rings on either end, where I attached the jump rings.

Use your pliers to pull the jump rings on your piece sideways, so it looks like a small spiral, and then hook one half of the clasp on each end piece. Using your pliers again, push the jump rings closed. Make sure the two ends meet fairly securely, as the thread is thin enough to slip out if you leave any gaps.

You can use this method to attach jump rings to most things, so they’re a really useful item. However you decided to secure the end of your piece though, that means you’re now done and can enjoy your new jewellery! I certainly love my new necklace. <3

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Optional Jewellery Ideas

This process of making jewellery is very customizable, and often only limited by your imagination, or occasionally your wallet. For those who don’t want to do a full necklace or bracelet, you can often find premade ones in craft stores, or even use old chains you may have lying around. For those who want earrings, stores carry plenty of different backing options, including your traditional fish hooks and post/studs, or even fake earring backs for those without piercings.

With the vast kinds of beads available both online and in your local craft store, the possibilities are endless. Often collecting materials means you’ll have plenty left over for other projects, so the more you amass, the more things you can make. If this is something you think you might want to invest in long term, I recommend a bead storage container, usually just a plastic box with many small compartments, and maybe a set of jewellery pliers, but you really don’t need much to get yourself started. So use your imagination and get crafting!


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AUREA's next two articles are out, with a brand new set of personal stories in 'My Aromanticism (Part 2)', and a brief look at historical predecessor's to QPRs, such as Boston Marriages and romantic friendships. If either of those sounds interesting to you, click on the links above, or head on over to the AUREA main page, where you can also check out previous articles!


uncannyaro
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Aromantic History

Ever wanted to know more about the history of the Aromantic community? In the honor of LGBT history month, AUREA's latest article discusses just that, as they look back over the (admittedly short) timeline of the aro community, before branching off to discuss various movements throughout the past that resonate with the aro community, such as the Golden Orchid Society and the history behind spinsters.

The article is an interesting, and sometimes speculative look at aromantic history, so if you'd like to know more, be sure to head on over to AUREA to check it out!


uncannyaro
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Coming Out Day

So yesterday was National Coming Out Day (for me). It's not technically celebrated in Australia, where I am, (hence the yesterday, since we are a day ahead of most of the world) but it's still an important day for me personally.

I have come out many times over my lifetime. I don't remember ever coming out as bisexual, but late 2014/early 2015 I came out to friends/family about being aro, ace, and agender. Recently I have posted about being genderqueer, and dropping my ace and agender labels.

Coming out isn't a one time deal. I told friends in groups of one and two, my family in at least 3 different conversations, made posts on facebook for those who I couldn't (or didn't want to) catch up with. I come out to complete strangers whenever I mention my girlfriend, and I debate it everytime someone calls me 'ma'am', or uses she/her pronouns for me. It's a never ending process, and sometimes I don't have the energy to explain, or I don't feel safe, or I just don't feel like it, and I don't come out to people.

And that's ok. Coming out isn't necessary, or required. Days like NCOD make it seem like you have to, and there can be some pressure from the community that, if you aren't out, you aren't 'being true to yourself' or some such bullshit. But coming out is a personal choice.

Sometimes you aren't safe to come out. Sometimes you don't wanna explain things. Sometimes you just don't want to. That's all fine. Coming out is YOUR choice, no one else's, and whatever reasons you do (or don't) have are perfectly good reasons.

So to all the people who have come out of the closet, and all the people who, for whatever reasons, haven't, happy NCOD. I stand proud, for myself, for the people who stood before me, and the people who will stand after me. I stand for those who choose to remain in the closet, and especially for the people who want to come out, but can't right now. Some day you will be able to stand with us, and until then, take care of yourself.

<3


uncannyaro
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Carnival of Aros - October 2019

It has been a busy week for the Carnival of Aros, with the August and September round up being posted, as well as the October call for submissions.

This month's carnival will be hosted by Constance Bougie, on wordpress, and their topic is 'Aromanticism and Alone'. This topic is apparently designed to explore the relationship between be aromantic and being alone, and whether or not that is by choice. They have several suggestions to prompt you, listed below. Don't feel obligated to use one of these however, if a particular piece of inspiration strikes you!

  • What is being alone like for you? Is it a more positive or negative experience?
  • Where do you go to be alone? What do you do there?
  • What kind of self-care/other things do you do when you feel lonely?
  • Do you have a playlist of things to listen to when you’re alone? Books or films you like to read/watch alone?
  • Do you have anyone you like to be “alone together” with?
  • Do you plan to or currently live alone? Are you looking to live or currently living with a partner or roommate?
  • Do you connect your aromanticism to feelings of loneliness? The opposite?

Further details on the prompt, and instructions on how to submit your works are detailed on their wordpress, linked above.

If you'd like to check out submissions in previous months, you're in luck! Both the August and September round ups are now available for you to puruse as you like. Keep in mind that the August post is less a proper round up, and more just a temporary collection, as the full summary has yet to be posted by The Aro Anarchist. As always if you'd like more information on the Carnival of Aros in general, or previous carnivals further back then the last month or two, head on over to their wordpress to check it all out!


Pride Photos!

As promised, some photos from pride. Like I said, I didn't get many, but thought I'd showcase my pins (got the genderqueer one brand new today, so happy! And yes, there are some pokemone gym badges mixed in <.<).

The little aro bat guy I bought from one of the stalls there, but if you wanna see more of the artist's work, they do have a site called Sonsational Creatures. I highly recommend checking it out, they've done some amazing figures.

At lastly, a couple of face reveals! One from pre-march, when I was still chilling at home (and showing off my last minute nail painting), and one from just before the march started. I unfortunately don't have any from during the march right now (waiting on a friend to send me their copies), but still, I had a ton of fun!

aberrationofone

omg, I ADORE your fantastic tattoo! Also you have a super cute smile.


uncannyaro

Thank you so much, to both comments!

I also adore my fantastic tattoo XD Especially because it is my aro tattoo, over my heart because, of course, my aromanticism can have a very large effects on my feelings.

The arrowhead is a spade, for the time I spent identifying as asexual. Even tho I've since stopped, it was still an important label to me for some time, and I am very fond of the asexual community as a whole.

The wings are because I see flying as very freeing, and my aro identity has granted me a lot of freedom with how I see myself in relation to other people, how I treat relationships, and how I view my life in general. (also I saw a really cool winged arrow design on tumblr, so asked my artist to design a winged arrow for me :P)



uncannyaro
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Pride Photos!

As promised, some photos from pride. Like I said, I didn't get many, but thought I'd showcase my pins (got the genderqueer one brand new today, so happy! And yes, there are some pokemone gym badges mixed in <.<).

The little aro bat guy I bought from one of the stalls there, but if you wanna see more of the artist's work, they do have a site called Sonsational Creatures. I highly recommend checking it out, they've done some amazing figures.

At lastly, a couple of face reveals! One from pre-march, when I was still chilling at home (and showing off my last minute nail painting), and one from just before the march started. I unfortunately don't have any from during the march right now (waiting on a friend to send me their copies), but still, I had a ton of fun!


uncannyaro
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I am currently home, and finally starting to recover from the pride march/fair day, so photos incoming soonish. I didn't get many, because a) I hate taking photos and b) I was just so focused on actually finishing the march without falling over XD But I did get to march with two other aros (all 3 of us wore the flag as a cape), and some other awesome people! I got hugs from some ally mums, and an ally dad, saw a bunch of pride puppies (we lost one member of our group everytime they saw one), and bought myself some new pins. Overall a good day, although I don't know if I'll go back for the fair again next year. Too much corporate pandering, and I was already exhausted after the march.

Still, a very good day.


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An Anonymous user asked:

Hey, I know that I might find out the answer if I just go to the page... but do you know if you have to make an account or pay something to read the things on the AUREA thingy????

No payments! AUREA is a completely free website. Their focus is boosting aro education and visibility, so they aim to have everything they post as accessible as possible. I don't think there are any accounts or anything either. Afaik they don't actually have a forum or anything similar on the site itself, though I know several members of AUREA are active on the arocolyspe forums.

You should be able to access and read anything on their site free of charge, and without having to sign up.


uncannyaro
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AUREA has released their latest two articles!

The first continues their guide to aromantic friendships, this second installment detailing advice on maintaining and keeping friendships. For advice on approaching intimacy with friends, how to deal with difficult or uncomfortable topics of conversation, or how to deal with anxiety in your friendship, head on over to the link above.

The second piece published today is a collection of the aro experiences, based on the submissions they put a call out for a while back. This first of 3 articles contains 27 different submissions, discussing all manner of thoughts, feelings and stories from people all over the aro spectrum. It is a heartwarming read, and I found myself reaching for the tissues once or twice. If you do head over to read, be aware of content warnings for mild romantic and sexual mentions.


uncannyaro
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I've said since I got them that I should do something to decorate my canes, and now, I finally have! I mentioned my city's pride was coming up, so I decided, of course, to cover them in flags. The rainbow one was more a test, one I loved, so I did the other in all my identity flags (from top to bottom, aro, genderqueer, bi and polyam).

Super simple DIY job, just wrapped washi tape around a couple times for each colour, although I'm thinking of putting some clear over the top to help protect it, because washi tape isn't the most robust XD


uncannyaro
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This is uh... A mood


uncannyaro
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Carnival of Aros - September 2019

The submission call for September's Carnival of Aros has gone out, with Ace Of Arrows hosting this month. Their chosen prompt is 'Aromanticism and Fiction', and you can go check out their post explaining both the topic and how to submit right here!

They have plenty of suggestions to get you started, such as:

  • Talking about a favourite character or a character that you like who is arospec or who you headcanon as arospec
  • Talking about a piece of fiction that made you feel seen/represented as an aromantic person. Or, on the flipside, a piece of fiction that made you feel awful and broken for being arospec.
  • Are there non-romantic/queerplatonic relationships in fiction that have made an impact on you?
  • What would you like to see (more) in fiction featuring arospec characters?
  • Aromantic worldbuilding time! Imagine what a fictional world would look like if it was free of amatonormativity. What stories could you tell there?
  • Write some aromantic fiction!

Of course, these are just suggestions, and if your inspiration takes you somewhere else, have at it! I look forward to seeing what people come up with!


AUREA Needs Your Help!

uncannyaro

AUREA has more then a few future articles in the works, but for at least one they're asking for some community help. The plan is to consolidate a number of community submitted stories about being aromantic, and how that affects your life. To that end, they've organised a google docs form where you can go to submit a couple sentences talking about your aro identity, which you can find here.

I'm really looking forward to this article, and the (hopefully) large number of aromantics who might be willing to share their thoughts and stories. If you wanna contribute, check out the link and say something about what your aromanticism means to you!

uncannyaro

Time is running out to share your personal aro experience, so if you wanna participate make sure you head to the submission page to share a sentence or two!



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New AUREA Articles

AUREA has released two new articles! One is their monthly 'What's Going On', showcasing various events, items, and issues from across the aromantic community, while the other is a brief overview of the philosophy of Relationship Anarchy, and how it's view of society's amatonormativity relates in many ways to the aromantic community's relationship with society and amatonormativity. Relationship Anarchy is similar in many respects to polyamory, although as far as I'm aware the two are not considered the same thing, just closely related.

If either of these seems like something you'd be interested in reading, head on over to AUREA's page to check them out!


An Anonymous user asked:

you know... "butch" is a lesbian-specific term... right? bisexuals/biromantics have their own set of equivalent terms. it's disrespectful to be taking a lesbian identity when you're not a lesbian

peachy-queer
  1. No it really really isn't.
  2. This divide between lesbians and bisexuals? It comes from the radical feminism movement. The same movement that says that men are always men, therefore trans women are men, and men are evil and are oppressing women, and the only women who aren't traitors are lesbians who never associate with a man.
  3. If you're referring to the stag/doe/tomcat thing, why do i, as a bi person, have to use animal terms for my sexuality/gender expression, while the lesbians get to use people terms? (hint, it's because to radfems, bi's are a lesser class of people because we are traitors to women because of our association with men)

I'd recommend reading up on queer history a bit. If you can safely do so, i'd highly recommend Leslie Feinburg's book, Stone Butch Blues. It's a heavy read, TWs for everything, but it really gives a good overview of queer history around the Stonewall era.

And also, dear anon, it is disrespectful to anonymously message random people on the internet and harass them about their identity. It's not the done thing, anywhere except Tumblr, and i'm sorry you have been taught that this is acceptable behavior. If you'd like to come off anon and have a conversation, i am willing to chat, and maybe we can both learn something.


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